the careys

the careys
and then there were 7!!

Friday, 18 September 2015

Us and Them

Well this has been an interesting couple of days!  It started with having a question I sent to Jeremy Corby being read out on Prime Ministers Question time and then being invited to Newsnight to give my response to David Cameron.
I didn't know what I was going to be asked beforehand and I was only on for about 90 seconds.

My question, which was edited slightly, was asking how it is fair that despite working hard, ALL families will see their tax credit award decrease from next year.

David Cameron didn't really answer this question, he just stated that the 'rise' in national minimum wage was bringing people out of poverty and people needed to be encouraged back to work.

Firstly, although I agree the NMW has stopped the exploitation of some workers, anecdotally, my wage 20 years ago was only £1 an hour below the current minimum wage, so hardly progressive. Wages have stagnated and the blame could be on the Government for indirectly allowing employers to keep wages low or the blame could be laid directly onto employers for exploiting the NMW, either way the need for tax credits has risen since its introduction, including payments for childcare.
Interestingly, through simple calculations, a family earning 25k with two children paying full childcare will be awarded slightly more than a family earning 25k with five children without childcare. The system is complex and is certainly not black and white.

So, since Newnight, a tabloid hack from the Torygraph decided to write an article about 'Claire' based on her assumptions, which then received many replies from readers who added to them (some are about me, some are about people in general). Here are a few:

  • I am lazy for working part-time
  • I have never worked full time
  • I have never paid tax or NI
  • Volunteering, being a carer, or studying is not acceptable
  • Staying at home/working part time is lazy
  • Working full time is leaving your children to be raised by others
  • I am about 30 years of age (I like this one)
  • Women who have lots of child are not intelligent!!!
  • Its highly unlikely a woman who has been raising her children can earn above minimum wage
  • My children would be better of without me
  • I am fat (obviously I am!, however, they presume I don't care or that I am not doing anything about it)
  • We are a 'blended' family and I have 5 kids to 5 dads!
  • I am not married
  • I had kids to claim benefits and refuse to work harder
  • We use food banks, cry poverty, despite earning a middle income wage
  • No-one who requires help from tax credits/child benefit should have children, so therefore only high earner should reproduce.
  • I will never amount to much
  • Working, studying, volunteering is impossible with 5 children.
  • A family earning 35k cannot afford one child apparently, yet our wages/tax credits (just looking at this purely from a monetary perspective) care for five, it is about priorities and adjusting your lifestyle if you want more than one. When I am working full time again our combined incomes will see us not being eligible for tax credits (apart from childcare possibly) and we will still afford our children as we keep our outgoings low and are frugal.

Maybe we should all stop having children as who can realistically (not including some higher earners) in this day and age even afford childcare for just one or two children without support.

Tax payers pay into a pot and it is distributed to many different areas of welfare, many of them we will never use in our lifetime.
We pay for higher education, carers, state pensions and benefits, MPs, the Royal Family, Public Services and much more (I just cannot think off the top of my head)

Maybe we should abolish all tax and insurances, scrap all free education including primary/secondary, the whole welfare state, higher education loans Public Services, Armed forces etc etc and lets make it about survival of the fittest and those who are not 'fit' should be put in the workhouse.

I have responded via twitter and email to the author of the article but I have so far been ignored, I expect this is because they prefer to perpetuate the myth that large families, anyone who claims benefits is lazy and workshy.

Thursday, 6 August 2015


Just a little extra post!

I love facebook. I like posting photos and videos of my family, sharing quotes, funny links, jokes etc, chatting to friends and family via messenger and sharing my thoughts, whether they are general, cryptic, moaning, nonsense, whatever really!

I understand some people don't use facebook at all which is their choice and there are some who do use it but use it differently to me which is also fine.

There are no 'rules' to follow so if someone wants to post a ton of photos of their children, a photo of a meal they made, or share the news about a death of a loved one, or just have a moan about something then that is fine and should be able to without having comments over how they use facebook.

Just let people do what makes them happy, be mindful of your words and actions, be aware of consequences.

Oh and as an extra bit, times change, technology moves on, life would be quite boring if we didn't evolve and constantly wanted to stick with the old ways of doing things.

Getting a vibe

Before I start, for those with a similar mind-set to me, this blog post is not about adult fun!

I was trying to get to sleep last night and, as per usual, my mind starts ticking and wandering and before I know it I am analysing the world, people and their issues.

The particular thoughts I was mulling over last night were about 'vibes', or an emotional atmosphere if you will.

Have you ever been in a situation and had a feeling that something is wrong, or someone may not be truly being honest about their feelings and/or intentions? It can often be that only you have this feeling and if you voice it to others you run the risk of sounding either very paranoid or just plain weird. Is anyone with me?

I find myself in these situations on occasion and I like to trust my instincts and believe that the vibe I am getting is spot on. I have experienced this a few times now over the last few weeks with regards to 'friends'. Changes in behaviour, lack of contact, but noticing effort put in elsewhere, and just a general 'vibe' that something is not right. I like to get things out in the open, mostly because if I don't then I will have allsorts going through my mind until I do, and I dislike atmosphere!
Although, if my feeling is right then I have no idea what I may have done to deserve it. As far as I can tell I have not hurt anyone, ignored anyone or done harm.

However, there is always the risk that I am way off the mark, will look like a freak and potentially cause a whole new problem.

So, there you have it, a potentially meaningless ramble from a very tired mama bear.